Good Look panelist and Girl Code’s Nessa shares how she’s experienced microaggressions. Read what she had to say and tell us what you’ve heard.
I used to always hear, “Oh wow, you went to UC Berkeley on a scholarship? What sport did you play?”
No, I didn’t get there playing sports, I worked my butt off and got there on a full ride academic scholarship. I was always offended because the assumption was that all minorities got a scholarship to UC Berkeley through sports.
My way of dealing with these types of microaggresssions were to correct whomever was saying it to me and kindly explain how I got the scholarship - through hard work. I had to take a step back and realize they were unintentionally putting me down.
I learned it was best to approach them by not giving them attitude but instead teaching them what was right so they wouldn’t make that mistake again. I think that’s the most important part in dealing with these [microaggressions]; you have to help people understand that microaggressions are wrong and how to learn from them. -Nessa
"Being a part of the “Good Look Panel” is one of the coolest things I’ve been asked to do since working at MTV. I think it’s huge that “Girl Code” has a lesbian cast member and I’m still surprised that it’s me!
When I was growing up gay and in the closet in Georgia, I couldn’t speak about my sexuality and all the questions and fears that come with it. I’ve come a long way and am now very confident in my sexuality and speak about it all the time (especially on TV).
Now, I can hopefully help other people who are still suffering or just have questions. And even if you’re not gay, you can still have questions about it. As open and aware as our generation is, I think it’s okay to ask questions and know that more can be done to make our world more equal. I’m honored and excited to be a part of the conversation.”